Since I'm on a roll lately of speaking my mind...
(I'm not purposefully shedding compassion, I'm just saddened when no one else is willing to say it..It's not "judgement" as some choose to view it)
I thought I'd add one more major personal pet peeve that I've finally had it with. (blame the lack of sleep at this stage of pregnancy)
Do you have boys in your family?
Wonderful!!
Do you want to be the umpteenth person to tell me one of the following:
"You can kiss your peaceful life goodbye now!"
"Oh you have no idea what you're in for."
"Hope you are ready for a (pick one of the following) climbing,rock-throwing, eater-of-anything, wild, full of energy, curious, snake-loving, filthy, hard core boy!"
Or better yet....do you think you might just wink at me and say "Good luck with that." ??
If so. DON'T.
This is fair warning to all humans within the reach of my blog that I've had it to a breaking point and I will be turning on my selective hearing now to only allow ENCOURAGING, UPLIFTING and HAPPY words of raising boys.
I expect and delight in the realization that life will be different with 3 children. That my son will have very different needs, adventures and delights than those of my girls and all of that does not scare me in the least.
Call me very old-school, but I believe that little boys are not automatically declared "unavoidably wild" just because they posses little boy parts, just as I believe little girls should not be allowed to be little emotional basket cases all the time simply because they are "sugar and spice and everything nice." Self-control is the same fruit of the Spirit whether your children are male or female. There is BOY behavior and there's BAD behavior. I'm not willing to accept that my son will and must exhibit bad behavior to be a boy. Still, I'm sure I have many, many surprises in store for me.
But, the point of all this is to say..."Moms! You're freaking me out. Haha. Give me your good stories, your blessings, your words of wisdom in raising sons....Don't kill the joy before it begins! You gain very little in sympathy or respect when attempting to convey your own 'woes' and leaving out anything edifying."
I'm still game for humor and laughter by all means, but the little boy doomsday-ers will have to find another mom to torture. I have 58 days left (at least!) to anticipate the birth of my little boy...and if I have a chance at raising a little boy who will turn out like his Daddy...who in the world could be unhappy about that.
7 comments:
wouldn't trade all my brothers for anything in the world :) boys are awesome :) they come with lego's and lincoln logs and games of hide and go seek! They are the ones who will eat just about anything a big sister wants to attempt to cook/bake..
I think if I ever get to have babies, a boy is for sure on my list, cuz that's all I know!!
You tell 'em Momma! Why can't people keep there crazy opinions to themselves?
I'm excited for your little man and all the joy he will bring to your family! <3
I love you Becky, and THANKS for being excited! I loved my brothers too and can't wait to see E & O mother...'er.... interact with a little brother!
I had the same experience when I was pregnant with Travis...and none of those things have materialized so far! Travis is a very thoughtful, quiet boy (while still being ALL boy) who cares about other people's feelings and is always praised as being the best behaved boy in his classes every year! He loves building things and is very analytical. I totally agree that it's a matter of BAD behavior versus BOY behavior. I don't tolerate it from Evie so why would I from Travis? Anyway, just wanted to encourage you that you can raise a loving, well behaved boy and not stifle any of his BOY-ness. :)
It amazes me what people will say. If you were having another girl i'm sure you'd have all kinds of crazy comments about that too.
I absolutely loved growing up with boys!! They are lots of fun and I have many special memories with all 3 of my brothers.
Isaiah is a blessing to raise and I'm so thankful that Macy has a brother. God knows best what each of us need and this little guy will be such a joy! Love you!!!
It is crazy the things people say, I think sometimes they just want something to say and can't think of it so they say the first dumb think that pops into their minds!
I think boys are great, and honestly as far as being rowdy, playing in the dirt ect. all 3 of mine do that equally! :) And to be honest, Madison is WAYYYYY harder than my boys. She has been my challenge from the get go. The boys are much more easy going and happy. She is still a gem and I love her but she keeps me on my KNEES! :)
I should make a list of the things strangers (or non-strangers) said to me when they found out I was having/hav triplets. One of the worst was "I think I would shoot myself" Nice huh? I SO wish I was witty but usually just find myself staring dumbly with nothing to say. :)
God is good, and he made little boys too! You will love it, it will be different but that's ok! Tell those other people there is this thing called discipline and training.... :)
Hi Nellie,
As a mother of of son I wanted to let you know what my experience has been. In no other words,......beautiful! Joseph has been a delight to me since day one, yes, day one of knowing that we were pregnant. At that time we did not know the if it was going to be a girl or boy, just a baby. I so wanted to have a boy that when he arrived I burst into tears! He has been a little rock for me during so many times in my life! He has always been a protector, a calming influence, a great fixer of many broken farm fences, pipes, etc...:) But most of all, his sense of humor has kept me in stitches!
So for all the negative, which I know can be overwhelming, think of this little boy as the sweet gentleman that I know you and Andy will raise him to be:)
Have a beautiful day sweet girl! My love, Susan
Nellie, I think (unfortunantly) it's human nature to come up with worst case scenarios then it is to reply with something happy and cheerful. I have one of each, and they are BOTH amazing! Different as night and day? YES. I also have a sister... and she and I are as different as you can get while still being the same gender from the same family :) Boys are fun, exciting, adorable, sweet, and hold a spot in your heart in a way that only a little boy could. I feel exactly the same way about girls :) My daughter is beautiful, amazing, motherly, and is so much fun to have each and every day. I didn't find out the sex of the baby this time, partly for a surprise factor, and partly because it doesn't matter to me! I have both, and I love both. My husband and I are blessed to just be having another child when we shouldn't have been able to, so to us, girl, boy, MONKEY... we don't care :) And on another note, just smile and nod to the nay-sayers. I have had "well meaning" people (usually strangers to me) ask me how someone so young is supposed to handle 3 kids, or shouldn't I have thought this through a little more? So yes, smiling and nodding has helped me bite my tounge MANY times :)
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